Husband and Wife
It’s been interesting to realize that Chris and I approach simplifying our lives differently. It’s obviously a difference in men and women. I am drawn to the emotional simplification, a life that would be more peaceful, more restful, more adventurous. I think of the places we could visit and the place we would eventually call home. I think of the time that we could spend with our children, enjoying each other’s company and enjoying new hobbies like hiking and camping. That’s what inspires me.
Chris, on the other hand, thinks of being debt free, living below our means so that we can begin saving for our children’s college education and being able to invest more in our retirement accounts. He thinks of the money we’ll save and the time that will be freed up because we won’t have to spend every free moment (and dime) maintaining our home and all the stuff that fills it.
These approaches are different, but not necessarily in competition with one another. God obviously designed men and women differently. Generally, women are relational and emotional; men are tangible and logical. Chris’ and my desires definitely illustrate that, but they don’t have to work against each other. In fact, they can strengthen each other. That’s exciting! I’ll definitely enjoy being debt free. I’ll love knowing that our money is working for us, and I’m sure Chris will be enriched by the memories that we’ll create along the way.
What about you and your significant other? What does a simplified life mean to each of you? The conversations that this topic can start are amazing. For us, they weren’t quick 5-minute chats in between “Pass the salad,” and “Does this need more salt.” Rather, these were in-depth discussions that occurred over several months, even years. They’ve drawn us closer. We see ourselves as a team, working toward a common goal. He helps me; I help him.
I’d love to hear from other couples on what these conversations have meant. I’m sure I’ll learn from you and hopefully, you’ll learn from us too. Together, we can all enjoy the journey toward simplifying our lives!
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